Moving in with your significant other is a huge step.
Unlike having a roommate (whether a stranger or a friend), sharing a home with your partner is more intimate. It reveals a whole other side of your girlfriend/boyfriend you may have not seen before. Such circumstances can either make or break a couple.
So, before you make that decision to live with your significant other, here are 6 things you need to ask yourselves before signing that lease together:
1. Are we splitting the rent, bills, and groceries?
This may sound like a small matter initially, but it is important to discuss how chores will be distributed. Furthermore, who will be in charge of what and how should it be done?
Odds are, you’ll both be working and by the end of the day, when you are tired and have a short fuse, small things like not immediately cleaning the dishes or keeping the toilet seat up (or down) can be a source of friction or conflict.
It’s great to have friends and family around at home but only for certain periods of time. This especially applies to you if you are an introvert.
If you’re an extrovert, we doubt that having people all the time in your place of rest is going to make you happy. No matter how outgoing or friendly you are, recharging your social batteries is always important.
Not to mention the clean-up after can be tedious. If you’re not comfortable having people around, try to identify how much you can tolerate.
Come to an agreement like people can come over, but only on weekends and they cannot stay beyond 11 P.M. Or they can visit as long as they clean up after themselves.
The great thing about moving in with your partner is that you can complement each other’s strengths and weaknesses and work as a team.
Don’t be afraid to talk about sensitive matters, especially on areas you think you will clash. An open-minded and clear discussion will help the both of you in the long-term.
From there, you can start or continue browsing possible homes for rent that will fit your needs while listening to Beach Boys’ Wouldn’t It Be Nice - a classic song we recommend to all couples.
Do you have any questions that you think everyone should ask their significant other before moving in together?
We’d love to hear it in the comments below!
* This blog post was improved by Nina Tambal on September 2023.
Very good and practical tips. At the end of the day it is all about money, when love is or not involved.
Hi Jo! Happy to hear you liked the article. I agree - I've seen so many couple friends break up because they did not take the time to discuss their finances properly.
Very helpful to a wife like me. i can have extra income to save for my children in their future
Nice details shared and to be share.
it all depends on the income difference, who should shoulder more of the expenses which would only be fair. i cant ask my partner to shoulder 50% if her income is only 30% of mine!
Good reading... agreed rules shud be adhered to..
Budget shud be strictly followed.. rentals..utilities
..groceries.. household chores..maintenance or upkeep.. definitely no visitors allowed.. just meet up visitors in lobby areas or resto..